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Train Of Thought

Today's Date*
MM slash DD slash YYYY
Your Name First/Last*
What was seen, heard, felt ...*
What is your belief*
Mood/Body Changes*
- Scared
- Increased Heart Rate
- Anger
- Relief, Calm
- Embarrassed
- Neutral, "fine"
- Sad and/or disappointed
- Happy and/or grateful
Response, physical, noticable, reaction*
- Remained calm, steady breaths
- Raised voice
- Yelling
- Physical
- Tearful

Train Of Thought

Punch In Punch Out

Your Name*
Select your 'Punch In' time*
- 3:00 PM
- 3:45 PM
- 4:00 PM
- 4:30 PM
- 4:45 PM
- 5:00 PM
- 5:30 PM
- 6:15PM
- 6:45 PM
Select your 'Punch Out' time*
- 4:30 PM
- 5:45 PM
- 7:00 PM
- 7:45 PM
- 8:30 PM
- 8:45 PM
- 9:15 PM
Where is your "Check Spot"*
- Kitchen Counter
- Kitchen Table
- Near Front Door
- Dining Room Table
- Desk
- Other agreement made
Agenda and completed work will be at the "Check Spot" by*
- 4:30 PM
- 5:00 PM
- 7:00 PM
- 7:30 PM
- 8:30 PM
- 9:15 PM

Punch In Punch Out

Grade Yourself

Date and time*
MM slash DD slash YYYY
First, Last Name*
Goal #1*
Grade Yourself*
- Excellent
- Good
- Fair
- Poor
Goal #2*
Grade Yourself*
- Excellent
- Good
- Fair
- Poor
Additional Comments*

Grade Yourself

Level The Behavior

Level of Supervision

LEVEL 3

GUIDED ASSIGNMENTS

Level advancement is contingent on the completion of tasks (per examples provided in our meetings - both developmentally appropriate and a proper fit with conduct severity).

Higher

LEVEL 2

LIMITED PERMISSIONS

Compliance measures readiness for level advancement.

Time parameters
Task completion (hint: requisite skills)
Acceptance (insight/disappointment vs. refusal /escalation

Moderate

LEVEL1

FULL PRIVILEGES

As defined in our meetings, behaviors will include

Proactive Responsibility
Objective Efforts(include problem solving)
Appropriate Communication Style

Lower

Level The Behavior

Vocabulary for Difficult Emotions

Treatment Plan A

Anchor

A

(Actual event)
What event occurred or is anticipated?

B

(Beliefs and Feelings)
What is the emotional response and why?

C

(Consequences)
What is the consequence (disruption/inconvenience) of A
What is the consequence (disruption/inconvenience) of B

D

(Dispute/Debate)
What alternatives are there to the upsetting event in A?
Make a decision to Address or Adapt; both encourage positive behavior.

CBT

CONFLICT SNAPSHOTS AND SEQUENCE

From Deborah Tannen’s Book:

I Only Say This Because I Love You

Control Closeness Continuum

Review and Discuss

Relationship Topics

Journal of Social and Personal Relationships

2 Relationship protective abilities - forgiveness and self-control

Self-control enables people to override the tendency to act on destructive impulses and instead respond in line with long-term, relationship-oriented goals (e.g., Tangney, Baumeister, & Boone, 2004)

It is therefore a key factor in protecting the relationship from interpersonal conflicts e.g., Finkel & Campbell, 2001).

Self-control and forgiveness thus work together in helping partners navigate their relationships through difficult times.

The rationale behind these findings is that self-control enables people to show constructive behavior toward their partner, even when the y temporarily feel the impulse to behave destructively - a process that entails a transformation of motivation (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978, see also Pronk & Righetti, 2015).

Forgiveness too is an important determinant of relationship functioning. When people feel hurt or offended by their partner, forgiveness helps to restore positive feelings, cognitions, and motivations toward the offender (McCullough et al, 1998).

Since the experience of interpersonal conflicts is an intrinsic aspect of having a close relationship, forgiveness is essential for relationship stability (Fennell, 1993).

Defining Forgiveness

ANS The autonomic nervous system is comprised of two polar opposite systems that create a complementary tug-of-war, which allows your body to maintain homeostasis (inner-stability). The sympathetic nervous system is geared to rev you up like the gas pedal in an automobile – it thrives on adrenaline and cortisol and is part of the fight-or-flight response. The parasympathetic nervous system is the polar opposite.
Because the vagus nerve supplies motor parasympathetic fibers to every organ from the neck down to the second segment of the transverse colon (except the adrenal glands), its effect can be far reaching. Stress can raise the body's level of epinephrine and norepinephrine, which stimulates the sympathetic nervous system to over-ride the parasympathetic nervous system, of which the vagus nerve is the main component. 12/26/14 Function of The Vagus Nerve

Review Psych Education re ANS and Executive Functioning
Secure Executive Functioning with Parasympathetic Protocol

(a-e) Executive Functioning involves organization and regulation

"Action" - Monitoring and self-regulating actions (temptation; appraisal)

"Memory" - Utilizing working memory and accessing recall

"Emotion" - Managing frustrations and modulating emotions (perspective)

"Effort" - Regulating alertness, sustained effort and speed (persistence)

"Focus" - Sustaining and shifting attention to tasks (foreground / background)

"Activation" - Organizing, prioritizing and preparing

Dynamic Duo

On task Motivation

Restructure Core Beliefs

The Power of Paradox

Name*
First Last
- Save money
- Study Habits
- Veggies & Exercise
- Preparing
- Desired Want/Need
- Academic Performance
- Health
- Confidence
- Clarify
- Apology
- “Doing” for others
- Soft expression
- Accuracy
- Trust
- Selfless
- Conflict minimized
Examples

The Power of Paradox

Probable Willingness Points

Readiness

RESIST / REJECT - "It" defines the person's identity by filling emotional needs. Letting go is too risky.
UNABLE OR UNPREPARED TO IDENTIFY "IT" - Why is your favorite color green or why does your neck hurt.

Readiness

Subjective Distress Scale

Short Relaxation Techniques