Exercises & References
Train Of Thought
Punch In Punch Out
Level The Behavior
Level of Supervision
Level advancement is contingent on the completion of tasks (per examples provided in our meetings - both developmentally appropriate and a proper fit with conduct severity).Higher
Compliance measures readiness for level advancement.
- Time parameters
- Task completion (hint: requisite skills)
- Acceptance (insight/disappointment vs. refusal /escalation
As defined in our meetings, behaviors will include
- Proactive Responsibility
- Objective Efforts(include problem solving)
- Appropriate Communication Style
What event occurred or is anticipated?
(Beliefs and Feelings)
What is the emotional response and why?
What is the consequence (disruption/inconvenience) of A
What is the consequence (disruption/inconvenience) of B
What alternatives are there to the upsetting event in A?
Make a decision to Address or Adapt; both encourage positive behavior.
From Deborah Tannen’s Book:
I Only Say This Because I Love You
Review and Discuss
Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
2 Relationship protective abilities - forgiveness and self-control
Self-control enables people to override the tendency to act on destructive impulses and instead respond in line with long-term, relationship-oriented goals (e.g., Tangney, Baumeister, & Boone, 2004)
It is therefore a key factor in protecting the relationship from interpersonal conflicts e.g., Finkel & Campbell, 2001).
Self-control and forgiveness thus work together in helping partners navigate their relationships through difficult times.
The rationale behind these findings is that self-control enables people to show constructive behavior toward their partner, even when the y temporarily feel the impulse to behave destructively - a process that entails a transformation of motivation (Kelley & Thibaut, 1978, see also Pronk & Righetti, 2015).
Forgiveness too is an important determinant of relationship functioning. When people feel hurt or offended by their partner, forgiveness helps to restore positive feelings, cognitions, and motivations toward the offender (McCullough et al, 1998).
Since the experience of interpersonal conflicts is an intrinsic aspect of having a close relationship, forgiveness is essential for relationship stability (Fennell, 1993).
ANS The autonomic nervous system is comprised of two polar opposite systems that create a complementary tug-of-war, which allows your body to maintain homeostasis (inner-stability). The sympathetic nervous system is geared to rev you up like the gas pedal in an automobile – it thrives on adrenaline and cortisol and is part of the fight-or-flight response. The parasympathetic nervous system is the polar opposite.
Because the vagus nerve supplies motor parasympathetic fibers to every organ from the neck down to the second segment of the transverse colon (except the adrenal glands), its effect can be far reaching. Stress can raise the body's level of epinephrine and norepinephrine, which stimulates the sympathetic nervous system to over-ride the parasympathetic nervous system, of which the vagus nerve is the main component. 12/26/14 Function of The Vagus Nerve
Review Psych Education re ANS and Executive Functioning
Secure Executive Functioning with Parasympathetic Protocol
(a-e) Executive Functioning involves organization and regulation
"Action" - Monitoring and self-regulating actions (temptation; appraisal)
"Memory" - Utilizing working memory and accessing recall
"Emotion" - Managing frustrations and modulating emotions (perspective)
"Effort" - Regulating alertness, sustained effort and speed (persistence)
"Focus" - Sustaining and shifting attention to tasks (foreground / background)
"Activation" - Organizing, prioritizing and preparing
The Power of Paradox
RESIST / REJECT - "It" defines the person's identity by filling emotional needs. Letting go is too risky.
UNABLE OR UNPREPARED TO IDENTIFY "IT" - Why is your favorite color green or why does your neck hurt.